Parents with a disability face many additional challenges, and depending on the nature of the disability, it can make everyday tasks much more difficult.
Physical disabilities can limit your mobility and your ability to do some of the basics of parenting, like picking up or carrying a child.
Parents who tire readily may find it difficult to keep up with active young children and manage tasks like shopping, housework, helping with homework, cleaning and cooking.
Many a time, these parents worry about being a burden on friends or families, and to fear being judged as a poor or unfit parent. So they try to do it on their own, I completely understand that nobody likes a pity party thrown on their shoulders, but let’s face it, these limitations are not an imagination, they are real. So opening up to family and friends for support might not be the easiest thing to do, but it sure is the best.
And as for the children they are naturally curious,( especially as soon as they start to talk) and may have a lot of questions about a parent’s disability. This is not a time to hush them or be hostile because you feel frustrated but openly discussing your disability with your child can help them understand any limitations you may have, such as reduced mobility or where they may accidentally cause physical pain.
As children grow up, they may become involved in supporting and caring for a parent with a disability. Helping with chores around the house or being actively involved with caring for a parent can help children to develop an understanding of responsibilities. It can also lead to higher self-esteem, as they feel a sense of worth from their role. Discussing your disability with children can also help to teach them to become caring, empathetic and insightful.
Admitting you need help isn’t sign of weakness, shying away from the truth is.
Contributed By: Chisom Nwobodo