C-section Moms Go Through Hell! And Here Is Why We Should Stop Judging C-section Moms Go Through Hell! And Here Is Why We Should Stop Judging
When my first child was born, I wasn’t given the opportunity to give birth to him by myself. I delivered through c-section.I was cut... C-section Moms Go Through Hell! And Here Is Why We Should Stop Judging

When my first child was born, I wasn’t given the opportunity to give birth to him by myself. I delivered through c-section.I was cut up and he was pulled out of me, and I agree that, that wasn’t how nature had intended it to happen.

But what can I say? Yes there wasn’t any pushing involved, I didn’t have to sigh and push my baby from my body while my husband urged and encouraged to to keep going, that I’m almost there.

And I regret not being able to do this after carrying my baby for good nine months. In fact, I couldn’t feel much because of the epidural I was injected with, and yes, I wasn’t able to bond with my baby at his first point of entry into the world.

I had hoped for a natural delivery, but as fate would have it, an emergency caesarean had to be performed, and I could not experience what most mothers go through, pushing their baby into the world with clenched fists and sweating palms, while their husband and family urges them to push on, until their sweet baby is brought into the world.

During the ante-natal classes, I had the opportunity of learning more about C-section and how it works, but of course, I never dreamt of giving birth through C-section so I didn’t think I need to know anything about it. But in the end, that was the only way I could bring my baby into the world healthy and alive so I had no choice.


The pains of the stitches in my abdomen is not as intense as the pain I felt when some days and weeks after, people were sympathising with me, throwing me pitying look. And I was surprised, after all my child didn’t die and I’m healthy so what’s with the sympathising look?

To my chagrin, I discovered they were pitying me because I wasn’t able to bond with my baby at the moment when he came into this world. How outrageous! I don’t feel pity for myself or my son, so why should anybody? And for the record I don’t regret ever having a C-section for if that’s the only way to bring my baby into the world alive and safe then that’s okay.

Someone else didn’t carry my baby to term for me, I did, he wasn’t brought out from someone else’s abdomen, but me, so what’s the ado about for nothing? It was in that moment and month that I discovered that there’s another myth spreading all over the world about natural deliveries.

And so unknowingly women are being pressured into having a natural birth by all means possible. And indeed being awake when your baby breathes his first breath and cried is a beautiful thing and so also is being able to control your child’s birth and something every mother wish for.

But what happens when that is impossible? Allow my baby to die? No, right? Then why do people find it hard to understand and reason with c-section mothers?

What people who judge C-section mothers don’t understand is that, a caesarean section is a major surgery and so many risks are attached to it, and it also requires a long period to recover. Sometimes it’s the only option left when there’s a medical emergency, and even when that’s not the case, sometimes a woman might feel that is the only way she can give birth. Does that mean she should be judged?

Yes it might be unspoken, but people are silently judging women who give birth through C-section, I’m sure in their mind they would be asking questions like Was she too lazy to push? Or does she not want to risk having her vagina stretched and stitched after she has tears? Does she not know vaginal birth is a good way to bond with her baby after birth?

I think this judging of C-section mothers has to stop, it’s so unfair. That you had your child through vaginal birth does not mean you would do a better job at being a mum than I will. It doesn’t mean you will love your child more than I will. Or whether you will pick them up early at school and I’d be late.

And as long as it’s not a determinant of whether or not I will be a good mother to my child, then it shouldn’t matter.

Right from the time a woman is pregnant, she becomes an object for pressure and judging, people comment on whether or not she makes a perfect image of a mother. This pressure starts from pregnancy till when the child is given birth to and doesn’t ever stop. But it must stop.

This judgement can do no good for C-section mothers and their children, they are in a situation where they have to come to terms with their birth which was different from what they planned. And sometimes they can’t talk to fellow new mums mothers who gave birth vaginally for they have a sense of being better than them. Yet women needs each other’s support.

And although I didn’t give birth to my baby vaginally, I believe I couldn’t have loved him more and bonded with him any sooner than I did, it’s motherly love, as long as you are a mother you will love and bond with your baby. And that’s what matters.

Source: http://www.mamalette.com/featured/why-we-should-stop-judging-c-section-moms/

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  • Adrianna Wideman

    September 30, 2016 #1 Author

    I had 2 csections, you go through more Pain then natural birth

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    • Thomadia

      October 2, 2016 #2 Author

      I Never Had A c-section before I have had to naturally births I think no matter how you give birth it’s still a joy

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    • Angel

      October 25, 2016 #3 Author

      I had a c section with my first child it was pain . I think its wayyy worst then pushing

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  • Yolanda cooper

    September 30, 2016 #4 Author

    I Also Was Rushed Into An Emergency C Section with my 1st child.
    I was so scared to get but thankfully with my son I had a vaginal birth.
    Either Way It Doesnt make You less of a mother than the next woman.

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  • Erma

    September 30, 2016 #5 Author

    Yes we do. I was in labor for 13 hours an in up having a C-section

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    • Micaria

      October 20, 2016 #6 Author

      I think that having a c-section is painful but after the birth

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  • Adriana ❤️

    September 30, 2016 #7 Author

    C-Section is So Pain Ful But Worth It 😍

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    • Ciara Sharay

      October 3, 2016 #8 Author

      Superrrrrrrr Painful But It Was Very Worth It 🙏🏽

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  • Jaki Crouch

    September 30, 2016 #9 Author

    Natural. Birth is. Better. To me

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  • Erica Chrouch

    September 30, 2016 #10 Author

    What people fail to realise is c-sections are just as important as natural births. I had a c-section and when I say that pain after is no joke I mean it!

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  • Jeiza Torres

    September 30, 2016 #11 Author

    I heard a c-section is painful.. I know 3 people who has had one but at the end of the day the pain is worth it.. I went natural all 3 times so I can’t say nothing but on what I hear about it.

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  • demi stotts

    September 30, 2016 #12 Author

    In my opinion c- section mother’s are just the same as vaginal mother’s, they have to go through just as much if not more while having their baby. You should never be judge by the way you had your baby, some people don’t get a option

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  • Nesline Diamond

    September 30, 2016 #13 Author

    C-section was the worse took 3 weeks to recover

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  • Lacindia Ewimg

    September 30, 2016 #14 Author

    Us as mothers go through a lot to have our beautiful babies but we can’t help but to love them and give them the world

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  • Raquel johnson

    September 30, 2016 #15 Author

    I had a c section as well. I carried full term. It was not easy at all. The healing process was a little rough and I wasn’t able to sleep on my sides for about a full week which was very uncomfortable. C section mothers don’t always choose to deliver this way…and we as well deserve respect and acknowledgement. I cherish my son..and wouldn’t have had it any other way.

    Blessed.

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  • Tiesha

    September 30, 2016 #16 Author

    I had a c-section & my experience different to say the least. After being cut open I was shown my baby ( didn’t get the chance to hold, kiss, or smell him) before he was rushed to the NICU. As far as being pitted or feeling like less of a woman I couldn’t relate it takes a strong woman to go through such a huge surgery, not be able to lift her child without help, & still come out unbroken.

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  • Shawnice Figueroa

    September 30, 2016 #17 Author

    I give credit to people who have c sections I was so scared I would need one.

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  • Kourtney

    October 1, 2016 #18 Author

    Every labor experience is different because we are different as women. If you have carried a baby for 9-10 months your a soldier whether you delivered vaginally or by cesarean section. I work in this field and both can be just as equally traumatizing but in the end worth while. So respect ALL mothers.

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  • C Mcclary

    October 1, 2016 #19 Author

    My sister had c-section for all 3 of her kids never knew it was like this

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  • Gabriel

    October 1, 2016 #20 Author

    I had three c-sections the pain is awful I cried each time and it hurts worse when using the restroom.

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  • Jasmine

    October 1, 2016 #21 Author

    I had a c section after I perfectly healthy pregnancy..
    The healing process was the worse especially while caring for a newborn

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  • Phylicia Robertson

    October 1, 2016 #22 Author

    I had a c section twice and wouldn’t change a thing. As long as my children are healthy it’s all worth it.

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  • Shelia House

    October 1, 2016 #23 Author

    Everyone woman experience in labor is different from others. I’ve had 2 c section carried full term both pregnancies but due to gestational diabetes I couldn’t push, so I had to have c sections and I must say they were not bad at all. In fact that’s how I plan to deliver all my children rather than push.

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  • ROKEIA

    October 1, 2016 #24 Author

    I RATHER HAVE A TOOTHACHE THEN A CSECTION

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  • Allison Lane

    October 1, 2016 #25 Author

    I just had my c section. Its beautiful and painful at the same time.

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    • marissa

      December 6, 2016 #26 Author

      I had my c section in March of 2012 and December 2014

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  • Catherine

    October 2, 2016 #27 Author

    I had a natural birth, but my sister had a c section and let me tell you I respect her for that because she went through so much pain .

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  • Colette Jones

    October 2, 2016 #28 Author

    C sections are hard work. More power to those mothers who endure them.

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  • Lala

    October 2, 2016 #29 Author

    I had a c section and it wasn’t that bad

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  • Alexandria McMillan

    October 2, 2016 #30 Author

    Yes I had Pain Reliever But It Was All worth it at the end I love my 2 kids

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  • Alexandria McMillan

    October 2, 2016 #31 Author

    I Had a great pregnancy I love my 2kids To Death

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  • Devyerre lewisn

    October 3, 2016 #32 Author

    Definitely agreed. Being a soldier in the military and getting a c-section and having to go back to work 45 days later to do Soldier work!!!

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  • Billie Washington

    October 3, 2016 #33 Author

    I had to c-section within 8months of each other (kids are preemies) so scary but I wouldn’t have trade it for the world b.c they wouldn’t have made it if I didn’t have one.

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  • Shadejah jackson

    October 3, 2016 #34 Author

    I also had a csection and no mater what kind birth you have all baby’s are gifts and you forget at it all once you lay eyes on ur creation 😍

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  • Tiffney mcwhorter

    October 3, 2016 #35 Author

    I remember this day like it just happened the most breathtaking day of my life

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  • Melissa Doyle

    October 3, 2016 #36 Author

    I’ve had 2 C-section. With the birth of my frist son I had no choice… I was not able to bring my son into the world naturally because of the anatomy of my body.. I spent 18 hours in labor and I was still at 3cm the doctors did what they could to make me dilate but nothing worked.. My son was in fetal distress he was coming but he had no way out… And with my 2nd son it was the same thing.

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  • Drealon Baggett

    October 3, 2016 #37 Author

    My fiance was told multiple times during her pregnancy that we were having a girl. This included the ultra sound right before she went into labor to give birth to our beautiful baby boy Drealon Baggett Jr.

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  • Robyndeelynn

    October 3, 2016 #38 Author

    I have had 3 never had anything but them… I dont know whatbot feels like tonpush out a baby but i can say that our risk is higher but i had a really fast recovery with all 3 ibwas up walking 9 hours after my dr made sure….

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  • Ariel Hollins

    October 3, 2016 #39 Author

    I have to have one in March. Extremely scared!

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  • Jasmine

    October 3, 2016 #40 Author

    My C-section wasnt all that painful maybe the part when they pushing down on my stomach and get sewd back up was the worst .

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  • Christal

    October 4, 2016 #41 Author

    I had 3 c sections. The recovery is the most trying part of the procedure. I admit, I do from time to time feel a small sence of emptiness because I was never able to deliver vaginally. I tried twice but I feel if I did not make the important decision of getting the c-section that it would have been the most selfish decision a mother could make. It would have not only put my life at greater risk, but it would have cost me the lives of the most important people in the world to me, God’s most precious gifts.

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  • T Greer Stewart

    October 5, 2016 #42 Author

    C-section was my choice!!! However when I arrived to the hospital the doctor’s decided otherwise. I was in labor for FOUR (4) ENTIRE WHOLE DAYS!!! Finally on the 5th day the doctor’s decided to do an c-section!!! When my bundle of joy arrived it was such a blessing and would do it all over again… minus the aftermath of heart failure and pneumonia… c- section mothers are awesome!!!

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  • kay-juana Ferguson

    October 6, 2016 #43 Author

    I Had 3 C sections and I preferred it than natural birth

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  • Shaunte

    October 7, 2016 #44 Author

    I remember this day like yesterday. Most terrifying moment of my life but all worth it once my son was in my arms 💙

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  • Carey glenn

    October 11, 2016 #45 Author

    I had one i was in so much pain !

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  • Carla

    October 14, 2016 #46 Author

    I’ve had a c section and 1 natural birth and I’d pick a C- section any day ! Women always complain of c- sections but everybody’s different cuz I barely had pain and was let out the hospital in 2 days rather than 3 .

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  • Kiari Cummings

    October 15, 2016 #47 Author

    I had three c sections the first one was a emergency because they lost my daughters heartbeat and it didnt return for a matter of seconds and even then her heartrate was dropping dramatically

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  • Deidre

    October 18, 2016 #48 Author

    Ive had five kids. My very last pregnancy was a set of twins that I had June 27th 2016. All of my kids were born vaginally,, UNTIL twin B of my last pregnancy. My very last baby was a csection cause she was so high up and wouldnt come down. Worst experience ever. Im very glad shes healthy,, but a the recovery from a csection is way different and longer than that pf vaginal birth. Im glad thats over with.

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  • Dyanna

    October 21, 2016 #49 Author

    I had a c section @28 weeks pregnant I had preeclampsia..

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  • Courtney

    October 22, 2016 #50 Author

    I had a csection but it was totally worth it!!!!

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  • Amanda Matli

    October 26, 2016 #51 Author

    Having a baby is a feeling I cannot explain.. (joy). I had my firstborn through natural, my goodness I thought I was dying.
    I nearly gave up, I wanted to die because I couldn’t take the pain anymore.
    But when I thought of the tiny little soul I was bringing to the world I had to fight. Now she is a healthy 10 month girl.. I Thank the almighty for giving me the strength for all that process. Good luck to all the mom2be

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  • Courtney Spivey

    November 2, 2016 #52 Author

    Never had a csection but I had horrible labor with my first with 17 1/2 hours of labor. With my 2nd it wasn’t so bad! I would do it all over again BC it is so worth it!

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  • khethiwe

    November 7, 2016 #53 Author

    I had 3 c section plus the one I will do next year I’m 30 years old it’s a life time pain it doesn’t get better especially when the weather changes. I just feel not normal anyway but that doesn’t put me down as long as I’m alive and breathing I have to live..

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  • LaDonna moore

    November 18, 2016 #54 Author

    Ive had 2 of them out of 3 pregnancies n I would want to push any day lol…but its all worth it after u see your little one

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  • Alawode funto

    November 28, 2016 #55 Author

    Who says its not what makes us mothers..carring a child for nine months and eventually didn’t go in vain is all that maters….uAm a proud mother irrespective of how my child came to live and to conquer by God’s grace.

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  • marissa

    December 6, 2016 #56 Author

    I had my c section March 2012 and December 2014

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  • Jasmine Leslie

    December 6, 2016 #57 Author

    I had preeclampsiaa so i was induced early but during that 2 day labor my son heart rate was going down so either way i was going to get a csection, i just hope i can deliver my next child vaginally.

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