8 Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Being Successful 8 Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Being Successful
Parents work hard to raise children that will be successful, but it is important to be aware of any parenting behaviors that may hold... 8 Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Being Successful

Parents work hard to raise children that will be successful, but it is important to be aware of any parenting behaviors that may hold children back from reaching their full potential. In this article, we’ve uncovered 8 unintentional parenting behaviors that can keep children from being fully developed, thriving, adults.

Parents of all kinds can raise successful children, it truly is an even playing field and many stories have proven this. Even children who were raised in abusive homes can become amazing adults who go on to be excellent artists, writers, professors, athletes, scientists, philosophers or exceptional leaders in any field that they choose.

What makes a successfully raised child is debatable, but we know that resilience is a key trait for healthy adults to possess and it can be learned in childhood. Whatever you teach or don’t teach your children, be sure to help them to learn how to bounce back from minor and major setbacks, because they are an inevitable part of life.

Parents have good intentions but do make mistakes, as we all do. Be kind to yourself if you make an error, but let your child know about it and use it as a learning opportunity with them. Let’s look at 8 of the parenting behaviors that keep children from being successful.

8 PARENTING BEHAVIORS THAT KEEP CHILDREN FROM BEING SUCCESSFUL

Many people can recall ways in which their own parents behaved that did not help them be a successful adult. They may wish for a different childhood, but the guilt or shame that parents may unintentionally leave with children is not what any parent wants their own children to experience. Avoiding these 8 behaviors is important to set children up for success.

1. DISCOURAGING TRYING NEW THINGS

One parenting behavior that can hold children back from being successful is discouraging them from trying a new skill. Sometimes, parents have the best intentions in restricting behavior, when they have a reasonable belief that their child will fail. However, failure is also a part of life and learning to deal with it in a positive way is important for success later in life.

2. OVER-CODDLING

Doing any chore for your children that they are capable of doing, and should be doing in order to be a well-functioning adult, is a parenting behavior that keeps children from being successful. An example of over-coddling would be doing laundry children when they are teenagers (or even young adults).

3. PRAISING SMALL THINGS

Believe it or not, overly praising children can keep them from being successful. Praising small accomplishments that children have mastered is not going to motivate them to keep driving themselves to accomplish more and more. For example, praising an 8-year old for dressing themselves is not encouraging them to do this behavior on their own without praise. Focusing praise on the significant accomplishments that children make, for example, in their educational performance does hold importance however.

4. DISCOURAGING FRIENDSHIPS

Researchers reviewed the prior research on maladaptive parenting behaviors and found that positive outcomes for successful children included parents who helped their children create effective social networks. A strong social support system was helpful for children to rely on in times of uncertainty or stress.

5. HELICOPTERING

Hovering over a child’s every move is not only annoying, but it leads the child to an unfortunate conclusion; mom or dad do not believe in my ability to be successful on my own. Unfortunately, this parenting behavior leads children to distrust in their own abilities and take fewer risks, even when they are capable of doing something on their own.

6. OVERLY STRICT PARENTING BEHAVIOR

Research by the University College London found that harsh parenting behavior had effects on the level of self-control for children and that these effects lasted and were also correlated with conduct problems later in life. The researchers say that ‘Harsh parenting predicted conduct problems for both boys and girls. Self-control at age 9 predicted conduct problems and emotional difficulties at age 12.’

Lower self-control levels were the result of strictly overseeing children’s behavior and being overly restrictive in the boundaries given to children. Allowing children, especially as they learn to manage their behavior within the reasonable boundaries that they have already mastered, to experience greater and greater freedom is essential to children being successful.

7. DISCOURAGING EMOTIONAL EXPRESSION

A healthy parent-child relationship is mutually beneficial to both child and adult. A balance of give and take early in a relationship is one of the best predictors of childhood success. To build this connection, honest discussion about frustrations, worries, and things that upset you can help children learn about negative emotions and how to handle them without suppressing them.

8. NOT PRACTICING WHAT IS TAUGHT

With all of the guidance parents give their children, children still watch to see if the parenting behavior matches what they have taught. If you do not share with others, but you teach your children to do so, they are receiving a mixed message and they may experience confusion about what is really right.

Henry Okafor

  • Liniesha Straughter

    October 25, 2016 #1 Author

    This is a really great story i love the thesis statement in it its totally awesome because its so true some kids go to school & act out because of their parents & we can never blame them because it isnt their fault

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  • Kyandria

    October 25, 2016 #2 Author

    I totally agree with 7 I went through similar situations not saying I’m not going to be successful but only because I had wonderful people in my corner I learned to cope with emotional abuse. This is a great article I intend to share it with others.

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    • Diana Jackson

      October 27, 2016 #3 Author

      This article was very informative…parenting does not come with a manual but information of this kind becomes an asset.

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  • Maricza Mckenzie

    October 25, 2016 #4 Author

    I love this artical, They had some helpful tips that I can use.

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    • Kelsey

      October 29, 2016 #5 Author

      I totally agree. I find myself over coddling when I want things done in hurry. Always learning as a paren

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  • Duntae

    October 25, 2016 #6 Author

    This is a good saying .. Cuz children do get out of hands sometimes so ye they need guidance ..

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  • Krissy

    October 25, 2016 #7 Author

    These tips will be helpful for me in the near future for my daughter.

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    • Dajhelon Dopson

      October 28, 2016 #8 Author

      These tips will be helpful for my 2yr old son. Its a hanful dealing with him.

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  • Mariz

    October 25, 2016 #9 Author

    I really admire this article and I learn a lot which I can apply in my motherhood system.

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  • Tyrell

    October 25, 2016 #10 Author

    Thank You Guys This Was Very Helpful

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    • Tim harris

      October 26, 2016 #11 Author

      Yeah, number 3 was very eye opening because I always praise my son for all the little things

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  • Antoinise Polk

    October 25, 2016 #12 Author

    This article is definitely good ..Gives good tips of parenting techniques… I can definitely us as I continue to grow in motherhood

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  • Fas

    October 25, 2016 #14 Author

    Kids is our future this generation is changing fast time is ticking

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  • Asia Atkins

    October 25, 2016 #15 Author

    Read this post in its entirety, and agreed with it. It’s a wonderful read and brings to your attention that everything the child may do wrong doesn’t deserve such a strict punishment. Allowing the child the chance to do things that they are capable of doing themselves is also an important factor in raising children.

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  • Trenika

    October 25, 2016 #16 Author

    Yes I totally agree with the article 100%

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  • Angelica G.

    October 25, 2016 #17 Author

    I love this article it has definitely gave me an eye opener.

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  • Sarah Jones

    October 25, 2016 #18 Author

    Very resourceful article!

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  • Dymond Nichole

    October 25, 2016 #19 Author

    Great Article . Really good Tips to help Moms 😊. Tips will most definitely come in handy for parents in the near future

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  • Brandy Simmons

    October 25, 2016 #20 Author

    I totally agree with this story..And if parents talk to kids and do more with there children kid would not have problems

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  • Shelby

    October 26, 2016 #21 Author

    Definitely agree with some points in this article!

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  • Kahdijah

    October 26, 2016 #22 Author

    Praising small things?? I do this with my son. I thought that that would be a good thing but I can also see were it could mean they get so used to getting praise for small things that they then would never go for greater

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  • Brittany murray

    October 26, 2016 #23 Author

    I absolutely agree that being a strict parent, that feels they are the only ones that know best for a child can be more damaging than encouraging. Its so important to allow a child to explore and try new things for themselves, as they may find their passion! Holding a child back because of fear of failure is usually failure itself. Along with being overly controlling, I feel that forcing a child to surround themselves with certain kinds of friends can be damaging. A child may have completely opposite interests of the type of interests you WANT them to have. Forcing such behavior can cause a child to mask their true self, leading to depression, or behavioral problems.
    I feel as a parent you should encourage a child to follow their hearts, and be there to support them, and most certainly guide them, while witholding the urge to control them.

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  • Crystal harris

    October 26, 2016 #24 Author

    I def.ly agree

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  • Larricia

    October 26, 2016 #25 Author

    I agree with the article

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  • Brooklynn

    October 26, 2016 #26 Author

    This was a good read the tips are very helpful. I will remeber these for when my daughter is older. Thanks

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  • Kadijah

    October 26, 2016 #27 Author

    I agree with this article I think maybe that may have been what held me back and I promised not to do it to my daughter.

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  • Cece

    October 26, 2016 #28 Author

    This is true, however I never thought of helping with their social circle. I may try this a little

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  • javiera

    October 26, 2016 #29 Author

    Good información

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  • Tyra Brown

    October 26, 2016 #30 Author

    OMG I really love this article, best parenting tips ever.

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  • Faith

    October 26, 2016 #31 Author

    Great srory

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  • Timeisha Jones

    October 26, 2016 #32 Author

    I love this article it has a lot of great tips

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  • Teunka

    October 26, 2016 #33 Author

    I agree wit this totally

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  • Tre

    October 26, 2016 #34 Author

    Great read !!! Enjoyed it one hundred percent!

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  • Deonne pettigrew

    October 26, 2016 #35 Author

    I agree

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  • Elizabeth Marks

    October 26, 2016 #36 Author

    Very helpful

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  • Ariana Bivings

    October 26, 2016 #37 Author

    I love this!!! It had some really helpful stuff in it!!!!

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  • KGreen

    October 26, 2016 #38 Author

    #6 Overly Strict Parenting Behavior…. I’ve saw it happen with my own eyes, I know not to make this mistake.

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  • Taitiana A Bryce

    October 26, 2016 #39 Author

    I totally agree with #8 I ur job as parents is to leas by example it’s not always “do as I say not as I do” yes you want your kids to make better decisions than you did, but that starts by doing the right thing yourself.

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  • Shameika

    October 26, 2016 #40 Author

    I agree on #2 over coddling I tend to do everything for my son even when I know he can do it himself that’s one thing I think I should improve.

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  • Alma Figueroa

    October 26, 2016 #41 Author

    Great article with very useful tips.

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  • Corrina

    October 26, 2016 #42 Author

    Very helpful, Also not letting you child be there self & trying to control there every move , wanting them to be who want them to be & not their self

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  • Freddy P Monroe Jr

    October 26, 2016 #43 Author

    This article was very helpful for me. I love it! Keep it up!!

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  • Tamia teasley

    October 26, 2016 #44 Author

    Lack of attention

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  • Elena Gabriela

    October 26, 2016 #45 Author

    That’s very important to know. I will remember it for the future

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  • Rickelle

    October 26, 2016 #46 Author

    This is a great article , I love the fact that you guys actually tell parents what they do wrong ! This is what more parents need !

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  • Reshmi

    October 26, 2016 #47 Author

    Nice advice but we must also consider a child’s IQ

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  • Briona Harris

    October 26, 2016 #48 Author

    There are definitely some great points here !!!

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  • Dhardy

    October 27, 2016 #49 Author

    Great advice for parents…. especially first time parents like myself highlighting what we can do wrong so we won’t cripple our child….

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  • Fantasia Jackson

    October 27, 2016 #50 Author

    I’m glad I read this because I have a tendency to over coddle my child sad but true 🙄

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  • Priscilla

    October 27, 2016 #51 Author

    Good read!!I strongly agree !!

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  • Teunka

    October 27, 2016 #52 Author

    Happy I talk to my kids bt didn’t know u could cuddle them to much lol huh

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  • Tyeshia

    October 27, 2016 #53 Author

    This a Very Great strory I loved It 😍It’s good for first time mothers like me

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  • shana

    October 27, 2016 #54 Author

    Never knew that Praising small things was considered bad but I’m open to learn something knew every day.

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  • Carleisha Murry-Anderson

    October 27, 2016 #55 Author

    This information is so enlightening. My 7 year old had Career Day at school this week and I was trying to encouraging the this he feels that he is capable of doing. He is an only child so I do display a lot of these behaviors with him. Wow!! Will definitely share this this information with my husband. Thanks for sharing

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  • Shavona

    October 27, 2016 #56 Author

    Most children when turn out being some what exactly like the parents. How you treat your children is how they will treat you or their children in the future you should as much respect for your children as you would show for someone else’s.

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  • De

    October 27, 2016 #57 Author

    Good to come across helpful articles. Def will keep this in mind

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  • Hillary Banks

    October 27, 2016 #58 Author

    This is really great & helpful ❗️This is definitely a parent must read ❗️❗️

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  • Shelley

    October 28, 2016 #59 Author

    Enjoyed the story!!

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  • Kendrica Bowwen

    October 28, 2016 #60 Author

    This is a really great story i love the thesis statement in it its totally awesome because its so true some kids go to school & act out because of their parents & we can never blame them because it isnt their fault

    Reply

  • Treana

    October 28, 2016 #61 Author

    Parents behaviors shouldn’t result in a child being successful or unsuccessful encourage your child to be the best and do great and they will be great

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  • Jasmin Mcmorries

    October 28, 2016 #62 Author

    Wow this article is very informative! After readimg this, i can say im guilty of #2. I ave a tendency of doing things for my children, although i know they can do it! Especially cleaning their room and filding their clothes! My goal is for the both of my daughters to grow up and be successful, so I know i have to allow them to do some things on their own!

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    • Jasmin Mcmorries

      October 28, 2016 #63 Author

      Wow this article is very informative! After reading this, i can say im guilty of #2. I have a tendency of doing things for my children, although i know they can do it! Especially cleaning their room and folding their clothes! My goal is for the both of my daughters to grow up and be successful, so I know i have to allow them to do some things on their own!

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  • Manda Taylor

    October 28, 2016 #64 Author

    This was a really good read. Being a young mother of 3 And coming from a broken home I agree with a lot of these. However I do also believe it depends in the individual of how they react to the behaviors of their parents and how successful they become. I know some children who have came from a home with very bad teaching and surroundings and became very successful due to them not wanting to be better than their parents or guardian..

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  • Dajhelon Dopson

    October 28, 2016 #65 Author

    Great advice, this should be helpful for my 2yrs old son

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  • Molly

    October 28, 2016 #66 Author

    This is great advice more should listen

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  • Rhonda

    October 28, 2016 #67 Author

    I love this artical, They had some helpful tips that I can use.

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  • Tyree Hale

    October 29, 2016 #68 Author

    Useful

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