Scientists Identify 12 Things Parents Of Successful Kids Have In Common. Scientists Identify 12 Things Parents Of Successful Kids Have In Common.
There is so much parenting advice out there. Do this, don’t do that, if you do x your kid is bound to be y….... Scientists Identify 12 Things Parents Of Successful Kids Have In Common.

There is so much parenting advice out there. Do this, don’t do that, if you do x your kid is bound to be y…. And since so much of that advice is based on personal experience, how is a parent to know what’s really the best wisdom? That’s where scientific research comes in handy.

Out of the pieces of parenting advice below, all 12 come from legitimate sources! Not your neighbors experience, not a random YouTube video… these tips come from researches and psychologists and authors, and they are backed up by major universities and additional research.

So don’t stress (more on that below!). Check out the list below for 12 things scientists say parents of successful kids have in common:

  1. Their kids do chores

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      Julie Lythcott-Haimes, former dean of freshmen at Stanford University and author of ‘How to Raise an Adult’ says that kids who don’t do chores don’t become productive adults.

      “If kids aren’t doing the dishes, it means someone else is doing that for them.” That means they don’t learn “that work has to be done and that each one of us must contribute for the betterment of the whole.”

      In short: having your kids do chores isn’t an abuse of power; you’re teaching them to collaborate with the team (your family for now, their coworkers in the future) and to work independently.

  2. They teach their kids social skills

    In a fascinating study, researchers from Pennsylvania State University and Duke University tracked over 700 children for 20 years starting in kindergarten.

    They found that the kids who played well with others, understood their peers’ feelings, and resolved problems on their own, were the most likely to earn a college degree and have a full-time job by age 25.

    In comparison, the kids with limited social skills were more likely to get arrested, struggle with binge drinking, and apply for public housing.

    Kristin Shubert, program director behind the foundation which funded this research, sums it up:

    “From an early age, [social and emotional] skills can determine whether a child goes to college or prison, and whether they end up employed or addicted.”

  3. They have high expectations

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      A national survey of 6,600 children born in 2001 revealed that the higher expectations held by parents for their children, the greater likelihood of students to perform well.

      “Parents who saw college in their child’s future seemed to manage their child toward that goal irrespective of their income and other assets,” said University of California at Los Angeles professor Neal Halfon.

  4. They’re peacemakers

    A University of Illinois study review found that children in high-conflict families tend to make poor life choices and are less likely to succeed.

    This is not to say that only “perfect,” nuclear families produce productive adults. Authors of the review found that children in non-conflictual single-parent families fare better than children in two-parent where there’s a lot of conflict.

    In other words, whether you’re single, married, divorced… the most important thing is that your kids know they’re loved and supported!

  5. They get educated

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      A 2014 study found that children tend to achieve the same amount of education their parents did. Mothers who finished high school or college raised kids who were more likely to do the same. Teen moms who were unable to finish high school raised kids who also were unable to complete high school.

      It’s all about showing your kids how much they should value learning!

  6. They teach their kids math

    A 2007 meta-analysis of 35,000 preschoolers found that learning math early won’t just make your kid a math wiz, it teaches other skills, too!

    “Mastery of early math skills predicts not only future math achievement, it also predicts future reading achievement,” said researcher Greg Duncan, co-author of the journal.

  7. They’re sensitive to their child’s needs

    A 2014 study of children born into poverty found those those who received “sensitive caregiving” in their first three years both achieved more academically and had healthier relationships as adults.

    So what does it mean to be a sensitive caregiver? It’s a parent who can “respond to their child’s signals promptly and appropriately” and “provide a secure base” for their child to grow and explore.

  8. They’re less stressed

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      We live in a culture where stress can sometimes be romanticized, but researcher Brigid Schulte found that kids absorb or “catch” feelings from their parents.

      It makes sense! If your friends are in a good mood, you’re more likely to be in a good mood, too. If you are stressed out, exhausted, overwhelmed… How do you think your child will feel?

  9. They value hard work

    Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck has discovered that both children and adults think about success in one of two ways: “a fixed mindset” or “a growth mindset.”

    Those with a fixed mindset strive for success and avoid failure at all costs. They see things like character, intelligence, and creativity as static, or fixed, so the only way to gauge worth is by success.

    Those with a growth mindset strive to self-improve by stretching their existing abilities. They see success as being the result of hard work and a marker of personal growth.

    Parents who think with a growth mindset value hard work, rather than judging kids based on innate intelligence. Their kids will follow suit!

  10. The moms work

    Working moms, this is for you!

    Researchers at the Harvard Business School have found that daughters of moms who work outside the home are more likely to have a supervisory role and earn 23% more money than their peers who were raised by stay-at-home mothers.

    Sons of working moms grow up to spend 7-and-a-half more hours per week with their children and 25 more minutes per week on housework.

  11. They are authoritative, not authoritarian

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      Research by University of California at Berkeley found there are three parenting styles:

      1. Permissive: Parents don’t punish their children and are generally accepting of the child’s behavior

      2. Authoritarian: Parents try to shape and control child. They have strict standards of conduct

      3. Authoritative: Parents don’t “control” their kids, they try to direct them rationally.

      Ideally, parents are authoritative. This way, kids grow up with a respect for authority but don’t feel strangled by it.

  12. They teach grit

    In 2013, psychologist Angela Duckworth won a MacArthur “genius” grant for discovering a personality trait called grit.

    Grit is “a tendency to sustain interest in and effort toward very long-term goals.”

    In other words: kids with grit see a future they want and commit to it.

     

    Share this parenting advice today!

Henry Okafor

  • Brittany

    2017-01-18 #1 Author

    Very true and helpful

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    • Daja Adair

      2017-01-20 #2 Author

      Very true an helpful

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    • Jade Queenn Simmons

      2017-01-20 #3 Author

      This is the best article I have read so far thank you guys for spreading this information

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      • Faith

        2017-01-26 #4 Author

        This article made me think about my kids being a lot…

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  • Carrie Davis

    2017-01-18 #5 Author

    Wow ! This article made me open my eyes on a lot because you never realize what you do and have your child do to make them successful . My daughter is only 4 and half the stuff written I relate too . I had to read this twice .

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    • Akelia

      2017-01-20 #6 Author

      I absolutely agree! This article was very interesting! I can also relate to the scenarios! Very helpful!

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  • HANNAH SIMON

    2017-01-18 #7 Author

    I find this information very powerful and informative. I have a son and a daughter, will be better parent knowing what I just read.

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  • Ca’Trina McChester

    2017-01-18 #8 Author

    As another an educator this article was very insightful.

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  • Ca’Trina McChester

    2017-01-18 #9 Author

    I am gonna share this article as I think people have the misconception that expectations is pressure or force not goal setting.

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  • Karva Mackey

    2017-01-18 #10 Author

    This is very informative for me while I’m trying to raise my daughter to be a successful and productive citizen! Thanks for the tips !

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  • Jasmine

    2017-01-18 #11 Author

    Interested in learning more….

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  • Callie Wade

    2017-01-18 #12 Author

    I never really thought teaching your child social skills could affect their future (college or prison) that much! Wow! It does make total sense though & I am glad I came across this.

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  • ShaDonna Davis

    2017-01-18 #13 Author

    This article was very helpful. The number one things I want for my children is for them to be happy & successful in this cold world! I am definitely taking this information & using it.

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  • Bryana Gonzalez

    2017-01-18 #14 Author

    Wow this was amazing!

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  • Aeriale williams

    2017-01-18 #15 Author

    This articlenioened my eyes to a lot of stuff it mad me realize that the small things in the world that we have our kids engage in helps them strive later in life

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  • Shtoria

    2017-01-18 #16 Author

    This list is so true. I am successful because along with God, my mom made me do most these things on the list and she also worked. I plan on raising my son the same way.

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  • Anna

    2017-01-19 #17 Author

    Never knew these things had such a huge impact on children. Great tips!!

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  • Tia Hayes

    2017-01-19 #18 Author

    I am glad I came across this I Fine This Information Very Helpful.

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  • Miakaris Cardona

    2017-01-19 #19 Author

    Great tips I will sure to use them future wise & share some information with my family also

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  • Deborah

    2017-01-19 #20 Author

    Though am not married but I will make sure my sister reads this because it’s very educative and I will also apply it when the time comes.

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  • Heidi

    2017-01-19 #21 Author

    Very helpful infor!

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  • Chelsea

    2017-01-19 #22 Author

    This is very helpful and useful

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  • Jazmine Lashea

    2017-01-19 #23 Author

    Never knew these things had such a impact on kids

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  • Hollie

    2017-01-19 #24 Author

    Very helpful and interesting

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  • Jada

    2017-01-19 #25 Author

    I would like to have my baby featured! 🙂

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  • Kiari Cummings

    2017-01-19 #26 Author

    Doing these things continuously with my children I can see them having bright futures once they become of age since I habe very little ones. My 5 year old however loves chores already

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  • CAITLYN F CHUPP

    2017-01-19 #27 Author

    Will definetly take these tips into consideration!

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  • Jasmine

    2017-01-19 #28 Author

    Train up a child young

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  • Quarnesha Gatlin

    2017-01-20 #29 Author

    This Article Made Me Change My View on Parenting Styles.

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  • Rachel hamilton

    2017-01-20 #30 Author

    This Is Very amazing , I love The Creativity ?

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  • Rachelle Amacna

    2017-01-20 #31 Author

    Very helpful and interesting! Big thanks!

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  • Shakea Youngblood

    2017-01-20 #32 Author

    Wow this is very helpful!

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  • Shahnawaz

    2017-01-20 #33 Author

    Never knew these things had such a huge impact on children. Great tips!!

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  • Samson Saka

    2017-01-20 #34 Author

    I find this piece of information realistic because while reading through this i for one noticed that my parents have practiced some of those points and as to where I am now and I owe it all to them.. Such a constructive piece.. Will practice on my children..

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  • Latrice

    2017-01-20 #35 Author

    Great tips! Some thing I use already.

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  • Qweku Enock Asabre

    2017-01-20 #36 Author

    That’s very true and thanks also for the additions..

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  • Kehlani

    2017-01-20 #37 Author

    This arrival changed my view on the different parenting styles there are. I feel more parents need to read this so the won’t pressure their child trying to become something they’re not. It had very valid points.

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  • chanel

    2017-01-20 #38 Author

    This artcle is so helpful as a new mom i am looking forward being the best mom my child would ever have

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  • Shemeika Rigsby

    2017-01-20 #39 Author

    Very interesting I really enjoyed this article.

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  • Shauna

    2017-01-21 #40 Author

    Structure is the key! These are very good points.

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  • Charles Portento

    2017-01-21 #41 Author

    I liked the authoritarian vs authoritative definition. This will be a very informative guideline!

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  • Angela

    2017-01-21 #42 Author

    This article is really helpful! Gives me advice on how to raise my child. Would love to learn more!

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  • Melanie

    2017-01-21 #43 Author

    Very good points.

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  • Gabriela Isfeld

    2017-01-21 #44 Author

    It’s sometimes hard to see how little day to day things affect a child’s mind in the long run. I strive to be the best mother my daughter deserves. this is very eye opening!

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  • Starnashay

    2017-01-21 #45 Author

    I absolutely agree with this article

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  • Destini Ruffins

    2017-01-22 #46 Author

    Wow , these kids are truly blessed . Can’t wait till my son is old enough to come up with these brilliant ideas

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  • RESHAM TRIPATHI

    2017-01-22 #47 Author

    very informative thank you

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  • Kendra C.

    2017-01-22 #48 Author

    Very interesting!! Many good key points are within the article. I really enjoyed this article?

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  • Jenn

    2017-01-23 #49 Author

    I must say I agree with this article. I am familiar with a lot of this information because of various courses I have taken in college and graduate school which often focuses on how parents influences children. However I did not know that children that learn math at an early age can be skillful in other areas as well. This was an eye opener an peaked my interest.

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  • Navette Flores

    2017-01-23 #50 Author

    Very informative article! Strong foundation to raise a brilliant child on point. Will apply this to my children. Thank you for sharing this.

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  • louis ibiam

    2017-01-23 #51 Author

    this is a fact and very true

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  • Andrea

    2017-01-24 #52 Author

    I’m a young mom but still I want to be the “best mom” for my daughter. I assure that I’m taking good care of her in the best ways. I want to raise her with good manners so I am very careful of words that I’m using to be a good example for her even though she’s only 1 year old . I’m starting to learn on how to control my temper especially when I’m tired and I bought books and do some research on how to take good care of my child and this article is very helpful for a lot of moms like me to know some ways on how to deal with our child and to be more aware of their behaviors.

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  • Tywan Magee

    2017-01-24 #53 Author

    I’ve never heard this before, but that’s great advice I’m using this in the future.
    Thanks

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  • Cherelle Cottingham

    2017-01-24 #54 Author

    My daughter is one and watches everything I do. Every time I go to clean the tv stand she makes sure I rip her off a piece of paper towel so she can help out. She has her own little broom also and she sweeps up her mess. Too cute!

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  • Branden

    2017-01-26 #55 Author

    Great article. Most importantly it’s facts. The success of the child starts at home !

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  • Akua

    2017-02-05 #56 Author

    As a parent you want to raise a decent well mannered little human, so I believe that taking pointers from this article will be a stepping tool in the right direction!

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