9 Habits You Should Steal From Your Toddler 9 Habits You Should Steal From Your Toddler
Okay, we admit it: Your toddler may not seem like the best source for life lessons, considering that it was you who taught her... 9 Habits You Should Steal From Your Toddler

Okay, we admit it: Your toddler may not seem like the best source for life lessons, considering that it was you who taught her everything she knows thus far. However, you can learn a lot from some of the things she does naturally. Check out these practices you should adopt from your little pupil turned teacher.

Throw a tantrum

Obviously, you’re not going to throw yourself on the floor and start kicking and screaming the next time your boss gets on your nerves (even though you may want to!), but don’t bottle up your emotions. “Toddlers are great at ‘letting it all hang out’ emotionally, and parents should do the same (minus the actual tantrum),” says Tina Gilbertson, LPC, a Denver-based psychotherapist and author of Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings by Letting Yourself Have Them. “Too often we refuse to let ourselves get mad or cry about something because we think it’s inappropriate,” she says. But there’s nothing inappropriate, or even harmful, about having a feeling as long as you express it in a way that’s safe for you and others, she adds. So next time you’re feeling some type of way, let it out. “Just be honest—at least with yourself—about how you feel,” Gilbertson says. Talking to a trusted family member or friend, writing in a journal, or having a conversation with the person who’s angering you or making you feel sad are a few ways to express your feelings.

Make physical activity fun

When you try to exercise and your toddler joins in, it’s as if she’s having the time of her life. She’s super energetic, full of laughter, and once the workout is over, she’s ready for more. You, on the other hand, are probably the exact opposite. You have to force yourself to work out, and even once you do finally get going, you may slog along reluctantly. Kids naturally gravitate to fun physical activities, yet adults often pick exercise because of an internal “should” (“I should run.” “I should lift weights.” “I should do yoga.”), says Helene Byrne, founder of BeFit-Mom and author ofExercise After Pregnancy: How to Look and Feel Your Best. That makes working out something you’ll dread, which mean you’ll be less likely to stick to it. Instead of doing something just because you feel you should, do something you enjoy. “Think back to when you were a kid, and identify your favorite play activities,” Byrne says. “If you loved soccer, then choosing an athletic group activity like a boot camp class might work for you,” she says. Loved bike riding? Try a spin class. And if you were into dancing, give Zumba a whirl.

Love your nakedness

Your toddler raises her shirt in the grocery store and has no qualms about stripping down to her birthday suit while you have company visiting. No, we’re not suggesting you flash your neighbor or bare all in the middle of the post office, but you should follow your child’s lead and love the skin you’re in. When you feel good about your body, you’ll take better care of it. In addition, the way you talk about and treat your own body will influence your child’s body image. So adore your body, even if you aren’t back to your pre-pregnancy weight. Some ways to boost your body confidence: Eat healthy, balanced meals, work up a sweat on most days of the week (to release feel-good endorphins), and make sure you get enough shuteye. Also, look at your wardrobe. “Buy or borrow some clothes that fit and flatter your current physique,” Byrne says. “When you look and feel good in your clothes, you’ll feel better about your shape.” And give your body some kudos. Remember, it is capable of some amazing things! After all, it created a miracle—that cutie who’s sitting her nude little bottom on your couch right now!

Just say “no”

Is “no” your toddler’s favorite word yet? If not, it’s coming. If you ask him if he’s sleepy, tell him “Good Morning”, or offer him an apple, his response will be the same: “No!” Though his negativity can be frustrating, try following his example. Of course, you don’t have to be as blunt (read: rude) as your toddler, but say no to things you don’t want to do or don’t have the time to do. It will reduce your stress and free up time and energy for things you really enjoy.

Ask for what you want

Your toddler makes it very clear when she wants something. She asks for it repeatedly (sometimes throwing in the cutest “please” ever), tries to butter you up by giving you a hug or kiss first, and if all fails, she breaks out in tears. Don’t bring on the waterworks, but when you want something, speak up. It doesn’t matter if it’s a raise at work or more romance from your husband. As your kiddo is already well aware: If you don’t ask, you don’t get.

No hitting (yourself)

“When toddlers fall down, they don’t waste time and energy beating themselves up for being clumsy,” says Gilbertson. “They cry because something bad happened to them and it hurt,” she says. Once they’re done crying, they move on. This is a strategy you need to master. Instead of criticizing yourself harshly and reliving mistakes in your head over and over, give yourself a break. Don’t dwell on your failures. Instead, pick yourself up, learn from it and then move on.

Find joy in the little things

When was the last time you smiled simply because the sun was shining? As adults, we tend to overlook the small stuff. “However, a child can let out a joyful laugh from something as simple as spinning in circles,” says Dion Metzger, M.D., a board certified psychiatrist and co-author of The Modern Trophy Wife: How To Achieve Your Goals While Thriving At Home. Look for your own little nuggets of happiness. “Recall the last time you felt ‘the happy,'” Dr. Metzger says. “Was it taking a walk on a beautiful day, watching a funny movie, or just watching your toddler dance in front of the television?” Remember those moments so you can seek them again when you need a cup of joy, she says. And make sure you’re attentive to (and appreciate) other tiny sources of delight, like a double rainbow in the sky, a kiss on the forehead from your partner, or hearing a favorite song.

Take a power nap

You know how your kid conks out right after lunch every day? Start doing the same. According to the National Sleep Foundation, a short nap (think 20-30 minutes) can help improve mood, alertness, and performance. So if you’re able to, sleep when the baby…er, toddler sleeps.

Ask for help

Even though your kid is in the “me do it” stage, he still has no problem asking for (and sometimes demanding) help when he wants. When you hear him yell “help me” in that tiny voice, you probably can’t help but crack a smile. However, you may not be as cheerful when it comes to asking for help yourself. Many women are hesitant to ask for help because they feel it means they couldn’t handle it all, says Dr. Metzger. Get over those “I can do everything” goals. “One of the famous quotes in our book is ‘Doing it all on your own does not make you Superwoman; it just makes you super tired,'” Dr. Metzger says. Her advice? “Ditch the guilt and take the help.”

 

By Tamekia Reece

Source: parents.com

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  • Cameisha

    2017-02-05 #1 Author

    Sweet news for the day ! Awesome

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  • Ni’kia

    2017-02-05 #2 Author

    This is actually good advice!

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  • Siara

    2017-02-06 #3 Author

    I agree this is absolutely true

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  • Keysheonna

    2017-02-06 #4 Author

    I just love the confidence in this article 😍😍😍

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  • Keysheonna

    2017-02-06 #5 Author

    I think this article is very confidential I love the idea of the expressing yourself

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  • Jerome jackson

    2017-02-06 #6 Author

    I agree with everything especially taking power naps with my son lol

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  • antoinia

    2017-02-06 #7 Author

    I Like This Article It Helps Alot

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  • Antoinia Baker

    2017-02-06 #8 Author

    I Love This Article

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  • Jenelle

    2017-02-06 #9 Author

    Taking power naps are the best! I totally agree with this article

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  • Jenelle

    2017-02-06 #10 Author

    Yes power naps are the best! I totally agree with this article

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  • Odyssey Perry

    2017-02-06 #11 Author

    This Article is Awesome!! Very Helpful!

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  • Karlecia E hatch

    2017-02-06 #12 Author

    I love this article very helpful tips.

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  • Adria Washington

    2017-02-06 #13 Author

    This article is so cute because I occasionally catch myself acking like my little one especially when Dad tells Both of us no this made my day ❤️

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  • Angel

    2017-02-06 #14 Author

    This article is very helpful I will take these things into consideration.

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  • morrison marshalee

    2017-02-06 #15 Author

    Thanks for the advice, i’ve learnt alot.. I really love kids and i love to apply to their needs. I believe kids should be cherished and treated the best way ever so when the grow up they ‘ll treat us just the same.😍😍

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    • Sophiann Morrison

      2017-02-06 #16 Author

      Wonderful info, i’ve learnt alot from this article. I do love kids and i believe in treating them the best way possible.

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  • Marie H

    2017-02-06 #17 Author

    Lol I actually had to take notes bc this makes so much sense! Love it

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  • Sherrell

    2017-02-06 #18 Author

    These are great …. and parents should actually follow some they work !

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  • Nosh

    2017-02-06 #19 Author

    Asking for help and the power naps are my favorite two!! Great article.

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  • Kimberly

    2017-02-06 #20 Author

    This is a good advice 😂😍😍

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  • Coriel

    2017-02-06 #21 Author

    This article is very confidential & expressing I love it!

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  • Diamond

    2017-02-06 #22 Author

    I love learning from babies. They can teach us so much about ourselves. My daughter teachers me so much and she’s only 7 months.

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  • Doreen muthama

    2017-02-06 #23 Author

    I have learned thanks

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  • Essence adams

    2017-02-06 #24 Author

    So cute and sweet , im going to start using all of it

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  • Bryanna

    2017-02-06 #25 Author

    This article was very informational

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  • Angel

    2017-02-06 #26 Author

    This is great advice

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  • Maya

    2017-02-06 #27 Author

    I love how it talks about once something bad happens you just gotta move on you can’t just hold on to it you have to let it go.

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  • Shaneka Hart

    2017-02-06 #28 Author

    I love this website and the good tips posted here!

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  • Alexis

    2017-02-06 #29 Author

    Wow this is so adorable m. In really going to have to try these things.

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  • Lucy Mo

    2017-02-06 #30 Author

    Great advice!! This could really help when going through postpartum.. Plus I can vine back and reference this article when papa bear says I’m acting bratty like a child 😊

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  • Tanaya

    2017-02-06 #31 Author

    Considering my child has so much energy alll daaaay longgg his traits should help boost the little energy I have daily, worth a shot!

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  • Nicole Alijani

    2017-02-06 #32 Author

    I absolutely loved this💜As parents we’re always so busy teaching and guiding our children but we can sure learn a lot from them as well😘

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  • Mercedes Wiley

    2017-02-06 #33 Author

    Good advice I love leaning from babies

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  • Deeandra johnsons

    2017-02-06 #34 Author

    I needed this I swear. Lol. Especially the love yourself one. !!!!

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  • Eugene

    2017-02-06 #35 Author

    This artical made me laugh a lot I never thought of doing any of these…but really good advice

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  • Nobutu

    2017-02-06 #36 Author

    I agree totally

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  • Kayno Kolonel

    2017-02-06 #37 Author

    Very good advice I like 😀

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  • Erica Oralia Quiles

    2017-02-06 #38 Author

    Yes ! I love this ! Let them be our role models as we should be theirs 😍

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  • Sara

    2017-02-07 #39 Author

    This was surprisingly good advice !!!

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  • Jakirah Starks

    2017-02-07 #40 Author

    I really needed to read this article, especially for the sake up my 2-year old!

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  • Aryanna

    2017-02-07 #41 Author

    Learning from a toddler is the rarest type of learning. They aren’t pretuned, they are learning everything for the first time! Prime their minds with goodness and knowledge ♡

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  • SaVonna

    2017-02-07 #42 Author

    Would have never thought of most of these. I’ll for sure keep this in mind!

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  • Jonae norman

    2017-02-07 #43 Author

    This is very helpful nd teaches me stuff i didnt no.now i can try new stuff 😍

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  • Jumare white

    2017-02-07 #44 Author

    Article is a big help!!

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  • Ona

    2017-02-07 #45 Author

    I agree very good advice !!”

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  • Mark Nwaozomudoh

    2017-02-07 #46 Author

    Very educative.learnt so such.

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  • Mark Nwaozomudoh

    2017-02-07 #47 Author

    Awww.this so educative.I have indeed learnt so much from this post.

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  • Qualla Louis

    2017-02-07 #48 Author

    Very good to know I know my baby is very good at doing that ❣

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  • Darrylneka Morrissette

    2017-02-07 #49 Author

    Great article . Best advice ever 👌🏽😍

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  • Deja

    2017-02-07 #50 Author

    Definitely will be taking a few of these tips!

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  • Mareko

    2017-02-07 #51 Author

    Very nice 😂😂😂 i enjoy every moment i spend time with mine

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  • ellabee

    2017-02-07 #52 Author

    This is so useful for a first time mom like me.. I hope you publish more tips In parenting..

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  • Shanteria Sheppard

    2017-02-07 #53 Author

    Great article especially with toddler saying no all the time great strategy to release frustration

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  • Fadilat Usman

    2017-02-07 #54 Author

    I actually learnt taking a power nap from my nephews because taking a nap when they are awake doesn’t work, so I prefer to wait when they take their nap and join them. I enjoyed this article have learnt more habits

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  • Rayonnia

    2017-02-07 #55 Author

    I love this article very helpful tips. I learn something new.

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  • Kelly

    2017-02-07 #56 Author

    I totally see myself getting away with all of these. That’s very great advise. So sharing this with my friends

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  • valenta mutsata

    2017-02-07 #57 Author

    great advice indeed thank you for the information

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  • abegail

    2017-02-07 #58 Author

    i realy need this article specialy when it comes to my baby i want to be a hands on mommy

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  • hay naku

    2017-02-07 #59 Author

    i need to read this article

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  • Zaquiria

    2017-02-07 #60 Author

    😍 I’m going to use this

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  • Jessica

    2017-02-07 #61 Author

    Great advice! You can really learn some things from a toddler.

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  • javier alejandro almonte

    2017-02-07 #62 Author

    I agree this is absolutely true

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  • KitaWolfe

    2017-02-07 #63 Author

    Awesome article with great advice for parents!

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  • Lanya

    2017-02-07 #64 Author

    I really love this going to try it out ❤️️

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  • M Satcher

    2017-02-07 #65 Author

    No glad I read this because I really needed it.

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  • M Satcher

    2017-02-07 #66 Author

    I’m glad I read this because I really needed it.

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  • Bre

    2017-02-07 #67 Author

    I agree with what are in the article. Absolutely true 😂

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  • Ranesha Monet’

    2017-02-07 #68 Author

    That’s wonderful advice! ❣️

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  • Kricole wilson

    2017-02-07 #69 Author

    This is very useful information especially for new mothers

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  • Ashley

    2017-02-08 #70 Author

    Awww this is so beautiful 💙

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  • Jarnae

    2017-02-08 #71 Author

    I didn’t know , majority of this but I did learn a few things on baby more , very good interesting facts !

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  • Jaylyn Williams

    2017-02-08 #72 Author

    I totally agree!! Awesome article

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  • Keonna

    2017-02-08 #73 Author

    This very interesting

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  • Sha

    2017-02-09 #74 Author

    Wow this will be really helpful to me❤️

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  • Felix

    2017-02-09 #75 Author

    Wow I think gonna use there for real

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  • Shaquita Morris

    2017-02-09 #76 Author

    Great ADVICE !!! I need it

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  • Maharajah

    2017-02-10 #77 Author

    I would love to add one more point!
    Forgive and Forget –

    Kids when we fail to meet their needs, or sometimes when we say something harsh on them.. they are very quick to completely forgive us and most importantly they tend to forget them and be the good they naturally are to us! If we can imbibe that wonderful character and implement such thing in our lives by forgiving the people and forgetting their shortcomings, we can very well lead a peaceful and prosperous life.

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  • Rachel

    2017-02-10 #78 Author

    Some of these things are so easily over looked on a daily basis. Great advice!!

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  • Mridula

    2017-02-11 #79 Author

    This is very helpful article

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  • pinky

    2017-02-11 #80 Author

    I really love this article ! ♥ i’ve learned a lot ! 🙂
    🙂

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  • Macjoy Peñaredondo

    2017-02-11 #81 Author

    Thank you for this. I learned a lot. 😘😘😘 now I know.

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  • Bria baker

    2017-02-11 #82 Author

    Never knew majority of the stuff that was in this article 😭 My baby isn’t a toddler yet but I plan to try out some of these things when she does get to the toddler stage ☺️❤️

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  • Victoria McCauley

    2017-02-27 #83 Author

    Gosh ! I never knew I could learn a thing or two from my toddler ! Great article! Awesome advice .

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