Mistakes Women Make While Making L-o-ve, #7 Is So Common Mistakes Women Make While Making L-o-ve, #7 Is So Common
You see a lot of articles about what men can do during §£X to make it better for the woman, but there’s a lot... Mistakes Women Make While Making L-o-ve, #7 Is So Common

You see a lot of articles about what men can do during §£X to make it better for the woman, but there’s a lot less information – and opinion – on the mistakes women make. So, to set the record straight, here’s our list of ten things for women to avoid.

1. EXPECTING HIM TO THINK LIKE A WOMAN

We’ve all seen loads of books with titles like “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus” which highlight an unfortunate difference between the §£Xes.

Men and women don’t think the same way – and while we’re not going to get into why this happens, it’s important to remember that fact when you’re in a relationship. In general, men are not as romantic as women, they don’t see romance as a necessary prelude to §£X, and they can divorce §£X from their feelings in a way that perhaps most women can’t. So there will be plenty of times when a man wants §£X even if he isn’t feeling romantic and connected to his partner.

For him, the physical pleasure of §£X is a reward in itself. He doesn’t need to be seduced into feeling desire (though he may appreciate it if you do seduce him!), at least most of the time, for his §£X drive is a pretty constant part of his maleness. I think that’s what women don’t understand.

They know how elusive and emotional their own §£X drive is, but they don’t appreciate how different it is for a man. Think of it this way: men can enjoy §£X with their partner whether they are feeling loving or not; in fact they often find their feelings of love for their partner when they have §£X with her.

By contrast, women often say they need to feel loving before they want §£X – or at least before they are prepared to give themselves heart and soul to a man.

2. NOT SHOWING YOUR §£XUAL ENERGY

Women who were brought up to be demure “good girls” (i.e. non-§£Xual) may find it difficult to express the essence of their feminine energy during §£X. And a lot of women also have problems expressing their anger, an emotion which can add real spice to the §£Xual union between men and women.


This lack of §£Xual energy might appear as a reluctance to initiate §£X, a reluctance to be the active partner, a reluctance to make noises or thrust, or simply an overall tendency to wait for the man to lead and direct what happens during §£X.

But believe me, ladies, your man will really like it when you express your passion – whether that means you getting on top for woman on top §£X, moving in a way that will give you the greatest pleasure, kissing him passionately, or being assertive about what you want in bed.

3. BEING TOO GENTLE WHEN YOU TOUCH HIS P£N!§

Men like a firmer touch than women, especially when it comes to their p£n!§es. If you ever have the pleasure of watching him masturbate, you’ll see how much pressure he uses on his p£n!§ – especially as he nears orgasm. If you’re doing it for him, ask him to tell you what you’re doing right and what he’d like done differently. He’ll really appreciate your efforts to give him more pleasure.

4. NOT EXPERIMENTING WITH §£X

The saying has it that men think about §£X ten times an hour – or is it a hundred? Yes, of course that’s an exaggeration, but it isn’t much of one. While some women have a high §£Xual desire, it’s true to say that women in general are much less §£Xy than men when they’re not in the bedroom.

Men fantasize all the time – about the things they see, what they’d like to do, how they’d like to do it, and so on. With such an active §£Xual imagination, it’s not hard to understand why a bit of variation in the bedroom routine can keep a man §£Xually happy.

It doesn’t have to be way out stuff like bondage, either. For example, try changing §£X positions once in a while: take the initiative and get on top of him or let him enjoy rear entry for a change.

Talk dirty to him if you’ve never tried that before; explore and play with new parts of his body, such as his anus and perineum, during foreplay – or even during the main event. Seduce him into a “quickie” by leaving a trail of clothes across the floor into the bedroom.

Greet him at the door in §£Xy clothing. Phone him at work and tell him what you’d like to do to him later that day…..well, you get the idea – use your imagination!

5. EXPECTING HIM TO READ YOUR MIND

Yes, we know it’s difficult to express your §£Xual desires directly. But men don’t think like women. They don’t read clues, they don’t get hints. So stop communicating indirectly, and tell him what you want.

And give him feedback when you get it! That way, he’ll know exactly what he’s supposed to be doing, how you feel about it, and whether to do it again. For example, if you like what he’s doing during §£X, let him know with your moans of pleasure.

6. CRITICIZING HIM

I think one of the reasons women can be so critical of their man is that they’ve never learned the art of direct communication.

Than means stating clearly and directly what you want, how you want it, and whether you got it – and how you feel about it afterwards. Men appreciate that style of talk – they know where they stand and it removes the uncertainty for them.

Criticism is an indirect way of saying that your needs are not being met – but if you read number 5 above, then maybe you’ve begun to understand that your man won’t know what you want unless you tell him.

If you’re judging his love for you on the basis of his ability to anticipate and meet your needs without you saying what they are, well, I’m afraid you aren’t likely to be very satisfied. And it won’t be his fault.

7. LETTING HIM TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ORGASM

A lot of us think that a man somehow has a responsibility to “give” a woman an orgasm during §£X. After all, that’s how a lot of us were brought up – that a man somehow has to look after “his” woman.

And that idea extends to making sure she has an orgasm during §£X…..but the truth is that women are responsible for their own orgasms. So while it might be nice for your man to help you get there, if you don’t make it to orgasm through his efforts, you can always take matters into your own hands.

8. CONTROLLING HIM BY WITHDRAWING §£X

One of the most unhealthy things you can do in a relationship is to use §£X as a weapon. This is basically a statement that you feel powerless, that you think withholding §£X is the only way you can get what you want.

Rather than trying to exert some influence over your man by denying him the pleasure of your body, try communicating directly what you want and don’t want. (That might even extend to simply saying you don’t feel emotionally close enough to your partner to want §£X.)

9. THINKING HE’LL FEEL THE SAME WAY ABOUT YOUR BODY THAT YOU DO

It just isn’t so. Men don’t attach the judgments to women’s bodies that women do. So, for example, even if he thinks your butt really is a bit on the large side, it won’t matter to him the way it matters to you. In fact, he probably quite likes it.

And he certainly won’t be put off making love, or want the lights off, because of it. While you waste time and emotional energy wondering if you’re completely undesirable because of some aspect of your body, he’ll never give it a second thought. It’s women who judge their bodies, I think for the sake of comparison with other women, not men.

10. NOT MAKING UP WITH §£X AFTER AN ARGUMENT

Well, yes, I know that a lot of couples do make up with §£X when they’ve had an argument, but in fact many more don’t.

As I said above, most women think that they need to be feeling loving and emotionally close before they want §£X. Yet I’ve met a lot of couples in my work as a §£Xual therapist who have found that taking the risk and jumping into bed can work really well as a way of getting close again.

Even if you don’t feel §£Xy or loving when you start making love, after a while the simple act of being physically connected in bed can really change the way you feel about each other.

The other way of settling an argument (that’s talking, seeking understanding, and thrashing out how you feel) is fine: but once in a while try a more direct method of getting your feelings back on track – just go to bed together!

Henry Okafor

  • Tressy

    2017-02-14 #1 Author

    Very informative…
    I however disagree with no.7 . I think it’s absolutely the man’s responsibility to take care of me. Taking care of myself just seems perverse to me… I don’t want to think about when I’m hitting peak when I’m sharing my bee with him. I’d like him to do such a good job that I have no choice but to hit my peak.. During love making.

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    • Jean-Max

      2017-03-05 #2 Author

      and who might be taking care of him?

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  • Lona sukery

    2017-02-14 #3 Author

    I love this website

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  • Tisha MOnique

    2017-02-14 #4 Author

    Its funny that i agree with mostly everything in this article im not sure if its the fact that i do have a very high sex drive and i find having intercourse while im upset to be enjoyable or that i was raised around alot of males so ive listened in on conversations that hit some of the key points to this article i have girlfriends who say all the time oh im mad at him we wont be intimate for the rest of the month or whatever and im always saying maybe if you did give in the thing that you want to happen will happen sooner ill be forwarding her this article

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  • Kanisha Jackson

    2017-02-15 #5 Author

    Thank God for this article!! I was just on the phone with my girlfriend taking about this exact topic! My SO sex drive is extremely high, I’m talking about through the roof. Mines is well you know somewhere between medium and low :(. Therefore I feel as though we’re not sexually compatible to say the least. Now that I realize how important sex is for a man, I need some remedies, tips, or tricks to increase my sex drive, so that I can please him in every way and not have to worry about him looking to get satisfied somewhere else!! I want to do it all for him and I want to become his wife one day soon! 🙂

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  • Kanisha Jackson

    2017-02-15 #6 Author

    Thank God for this article!! I was just on the phone with my girlfriend taking about this exact topic! My SO sex drive is extremely high, I’m talking about through the roof. Mines is well you know somewhere between medium and low :(. Therefore I feel as though we’re not sexually compatible to say the least. Now that I realize how Kaylen’s first photoshoot🎥🎀👶🏾
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    important sex is for a man, I need some remedies, tips, or tricks to increase my sex drive, so that I can please him in every way and not have to worry about him looking to get satisfied somewhere else!! I want to do it all for him and I want to become his wife one day soon! 🙂

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  • Jasmine

    2017-02-15 #7 Author

    I love to switch things up when we have sex. I can honestly say that men love when we take control and all they have to do is lay there & enjoy it. Lol

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    • Rod

      2017-02-19 #8 Author

      UH HUH!
      there were several times my girl suprised me with sex. She initiated it, I wasnt expecting it, but she PUT IT ON ME! I wasnt even thinking about it. HELL YEAH we want to be seduced, and we want to be taken!

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  • Robyn

    2017-02-15 #9 Author

    This was helpful

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  • Wickods

    2017-02-15 #10 Author

    For number 8. Ladies should know that doing this kills her attraction towards the man and definately the man will try to find attractive happy life elsewhere. Danger is that winning him back to the original place wont be easy!

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  • Anonymous

    2017-02-15 #11 Author

    Great article!! And I tell my female friends all the time #8 is crrrazy. I have married friends do that do that.

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  • mieshs

    2017-02-15 #12 Author

    Nice article i always thought it was a man job to help with a women orgasm especially if shes not really into it he should be able to spice things up.

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  • miesha

    2017-02-15 #13 Author

    Nice article i always thought it was a man job to help with a women orgasm especially if shes not really into it he should be able to spice things up.
    #8 is true

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  • Ikyaan Juliet Mngohol

    2017-02-15 #14 Author

    A great lesson for aspiring wives like us,thanks for the education

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  • Solomon O

    2017-02-15 #15 Author

    Whoa i like this write up.its matured,truth of what’s really happening.,..i think another note is that most opposite sex dont really love to talk about what their spouse does that makes them more loved. Believe is that if one talks about it,the passion of doing it may be void …..mostly ladies dont take note of what they do that makes their man love them,how to improve on it to get more loved by their man…

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  • Nikya powell

    2017-02-15 #16 Author

    It’s funny I agree to all of this . Me and my friends talk about this a lot

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  • Jay

    2017-02-15 #17 Author

    Totally changed my perspective on things

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  • Ela

    2017-02-16 #19 Author

    I think I totally agree with all of it! In short it’s helpful

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  • Emmanuel

    2017-02-16 #20 Author

    Wow, i like this write up…

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  • Elizabeth

    2017-02-20 #21 Author

    Thanks for your concerned heart

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  • emma

    2017-02-22 #22 Author

    what about guys with low sparms that does not last @ all

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  • Kume

    2017-02-26 #23 Author

    This is so true

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  • Laila orr

    2017-02-27 #24 Author

    Wht about ladies who hav no desire

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  • philomina

    2017-02-28 #25 Author

    Very serious,and educative

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  • Blaze

    2017-02-28 #26 Author

    This post needs to go round. Already shared it on my page. Thanks for the info.

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  • Nur

    2017-03-01 #27 Author

    Yes for educating people

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  • Joseph Kanyanda

    2017-03-05 #28 Author

    A centre of excellence. Generation will beat proud of this .
    Quite well educating the entire world 🌍, (worldwide )

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  • rose Am

    2017-03-05 #29 Author

    Wow, really like these tips

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