Mother of 6 sets the internet on fire as she explains why she is NOT teaching her daughters to dress modestly Mother of 6 sets the internet on fire as she explains why she is NOT teaching her daughters to dress modestly
Mother of 6 by the name of Jessica Martin-Weber of set the internet on fire when she disclosed in Facebook post her reasons for not... Mother of 6 sets the internet on fire as she explains why she is NOT teaching her daughters to dress modestly

Mother of 6 by the name of Jessica Martin-Weber of set the internet on fire when she disclosed in Facebook post her reasons for not being interested in teaching her daughters to dress modestly. The Facebook post which has already been shared over 1,600 times has spark as forms conversations.

Jessica Martin-Weber from Oregon said that she doesn’t force her daughters to “dress modestly” as modesty is subjective from one culture to the next

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Jessica Martin-Weber from Oregon said that she doesn’t force her daughters to “dress modestly” as modesty is subjective from one culture to the next

She said on the post that she wants her girls’ clothing to be their choice and reflection of what they are comfortable with.

Jessica wrote: “Who gets to define modesty anyway? We don’t enforce any modesty standards. Ever. Modesty is too subjective and true modesty is about attitude and our heart.

“To us, enforcing modesty standards is about controlling people.”

Jessica said that her girls, who are aged from five to 18, obey dress codes, either at school or places they visit, but don’t have guidelines beyond that.

She said that instead of judging an outfit on whether it is too revealing, she asks if it is practical for the activity.

The mum, who runs the blog Beyond Moi, said: “Can you participate in the activities you will need to do without worrying about your clothing? Is it practical for the weather?

“Are YOU comfortable with the parts of your body that are showing and that others may notice those parts and – though we are not responsible for the actions of others – how will you feel if someone says something about that?”

Jessica said she was inspired to write the post after friends and readers of her blog asked her how she teaches her girls to dress modestly.

Instead she said that she thinks it is wrong to control the female body and it shouldn’t be punished and hidden away.

 

The mum penned an honest Facebook post about her views that has been shared over a thousand times

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The mum penned an honest Facebook post about her views that has been shared over a thousand times

“In the end doing away with ‘modest dress’ standards helped free our children not only from the pressure of dressing for the cis-gender straight male gaze with their worth being in their sex appeal, it also has helped them find their confidence in not dressing for anyone’s approval but their own.

“By respecting them and offering guidance without projecting our own issues related to body image and sexuality, they can find what works for them with respect to their own personality and emerging values.

“We really just wanted to show that there is another option in how to approach this topic without promoting toxic ideas that the human body, specifically the female body, is dangerous and to be controlled, hidden, and punished for being sexual.”

Jessica said she wants to shatter the view that the female body is dangerous and to be controlled, hidden, and punished for being sexual

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Jessica said she wants to shatter the view that the female body is dangerous and to be controlled, hidden, and punished for being sexual

She elaborated on her post: “I grew up with very restrictive modesty standards that gradually loosened over time. Focusing on what is or isn’t ok for other people to see of our bodies, in my opinion, leads to shame.

“Shame makes everything more difficult, including when sexual assault or harassment happens because then one wonders if it is because they dressed ‘wrong’.”

Her poignant post revealed that she was sexually assaulted as a teen and said she had felt ashamed due to the clothing she had been wearing – despite the fact it occurred several times later in different outfits.

For her own kids, she wants to reaffirm the fact that their bodies are their choice and their clothing should be a reflection of what they are comfortable with.

She concluded saying: “We will not overpower their autonomy and will show them the respect they deserve as individuals that does not hinge on what they wear but rather their personhood.

“I don’t regret this decision as we watch our daughters bloom with confidence and dress for themselves rather than for the gaze of others.”

Jessica explained why her and husband Jeremy let their kids dress as they choose on Facebook

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Jessica explained why her and husband Jeremy let their kids dress as they choose on Facebook

The post struck a chord with online readers, many of whom agreed with her views.

One said: “Yes this!!! I’ve been telling people this concept for years, but you put it into such a way that I could not!”

Another said: “I love this. Not only because “modesty” in my family meant not showing my fatness (it’s “unattractive” or “disgusting”) but because we should be able to do with our bodies as we please, provided we’re not hurting anyone.”

However one reader offered up another point of view.

They wrote: “The clothes we wear send powerful signals to our peers and strangers, projecting the self image of us that we want to display. Therefore, we need to understand the significance of clothing choices.”

 

Source: The Sun

Nkasiobi Chukwu

  • Jessica

    2017-06-12 #1 Author

    Wow..This is So Interesting 😱….

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  • Kevonya

    2017-06-12 #2 Author

    This Is So Interesting 😱im In Love With this did she really Had 6 Kids

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  • Jada

    2017-06-12 #3 Author

    I think girls need to be taught young how to dress because it carrys on to when they are older.

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  • Ramsi

    2017-06-12 #4 Author

    Hats off u Jessica 😊 véry inspirational story 😍

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  • Brandi

    2017-06-12 #5 Author

    It’s her children her choice on how she raised them. The end result can be good or bad. But I believe the way you dress tells a lot about you as a person.

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  • Brianna

    2017-06-12 #6 Author

    Those are her children. Everyone has a right to their own opinion, and if that’s how she wants to raise her girls then so be it. Even though I don’t agree with it but regardless,she has a right to do so I just hope her kids are safe from the sick perverted people in this world.

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  • Nia

    2017-06-12 #7 Author

    I think that you are perfectly right👌🏼👌🏼Once your daughters are comfortable in their outfit and once they can perform the particular activity then there shouldn’t be a problem😊😊❤️♥️❣️

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  • Erica

    2017-06-13 #8 Author

    Some Moms Like To Let Their Children Be On Their Own When It Comes To Their Style Etc

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  • Tiffany

    2017-06-13 #9 Author

    Wow! Six kids that means she has a lot of patience in her I can’t take care of six kids😭

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  • Charise

    2017-06-13 #10 Author

    Amazing i find it really interesting just perfect ❤️❤️

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  • Jahuna Jacksonj

    2017-06-13 #11 Author

    I couldn’t dare let my baby girl walk around looking just no any type of way!

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  • Dawn Rivers

    2017-06-13 #12 Author

    You can’t tell someone how to raise their children but with my gurls they already look older and I don’t allow them to dress in a way that makes them look more mature than they are….if it was up to me they would be in piggy tails and bows for life….lol but what she is doing definitely defies what we are raised to believe.

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  • Natasha Nolan

    2017-06-13 #13 Author

    Those are her kids at the end of the day.at a certain age U should be able to wear wat u want (16 y/o preferrabley as long as its not inapropriate

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